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Lessons in Making Your Life (and the Lives of People around You) Easier

Mind your manners, people.

I could leave it at that, but nope, here I go.

Stop SignWHAT TO STOP

  • Behaving as if you are the only one who matters in the world
  • Living in a virtual world and neglecting your “real” friends and family
  • Being late
  • Being dishonest
  • Pushing your agenda on others
  • Being unkind
  • Being selfish
  • Neglecting to invest in your community
  • Being a downer
  • And for goodness sake stop playing the victim card

These are just a few of my pet peeves at the moment. If you really want to make a difference in the world, begin with your little patch of earth and see if you can effect positive change in others – not through your words but through your actions.

So what can you do? (Glad you asked.)

WHAT TO START

  • Taking care of your needs (eat, rest and move), turning off the TV/computer/cell phone and connecting with the people around you
  • Valuing other people’s time as much as your own
  • Being truthful with everyone – especially yourself
  • Releasing the need to judge others – you do not know their path
  • Giving to others and giving to yourself generously; whether of your time or your resources, giving helps you connect with other people
  • Contributing and find a cause greater than yourself – someone or something that needs you more
  • Being more positive and, for goodness sake, whatever you’ve been through, you’re here now; that doesn’t make you a victim in my book – that makes you a survivor. Own it and you can change it.

10 Tips to Staying Youthful

Recently I was at the annual Hay House I Can Do It conference in Pasadena, California. I got to see a number of amazing speakers who addressed the mind, body, spirit collective.

One of the speakers who stood out for me is someone I’ve seen a handful of times before, Dr. Christiane Northrup. A physician, author, mother, inspirational speaker, and pioneer in women’s health, she addressed aging in her keynote on Saturday evening. A couple of the things that she said really stuck with me and they were:

  • Stop telling people your age – I love sharing my age, got to work on this one.
  • Stop acting your age – I’m notorious for not acting like an adult, nailed this one.

Her reasons were pretty clear: we have preconceived ideas about what certain ages should bring. And not only do we have those preconceived ideas, so do other people. It leads to ageism!

YouthfulOver the course of the past week I spent time with a number of my girlfriends and gathered a handful of additional tips for remaining youthful.

  • Laugh – Laugh at yourself, laugh at life, just find something to laugh about daily.
  • Forgive – Holding onto grudges, anger, resentment and all that other negative nonsense puts stress on your body, and stress leads to wrinkles as well is bad health.
  • Move – Get up and dance, run, walk or play if you can. If you can’t, then wiggle your arms and legs or flap them like a bird. Just find a way to move your body joyfully for 20 to 30 minutes a day.
  • Look to the future – Quit focusing on the past. It’s nice to reminisce but having something to look forward to – events, goals, treats, etc. those give you motivation to keep moving forward.
  • Hold on to memories, let go of stuff – Do you really need the stuffed animal your first boyfriend gave you back in high school or the silk flower you got for Mother’s Day 12 years ago? Things require energy and attention and so do people. Where do you think your energy is best spent?
  • Keep learning – Even if it’s learning to brush your teeth with your non-dominant hand, if you continue to learn and expand your knowledge base you have greater likelihood of staving off cognitive impairment associated with aging and you’ll have cool things to talk about with your friends and family – instead of repeating the same old stories.
  • Make new friends – Create new relationships in your life, and not just with people who are exactly like you. By creating and nurturing new relationships you’ll be exposed to new things and you’ll tick off a few of the other items on this list.
  • Find a purpose – Whether you take a job, start a business, do volunteer work or whatever it is, having a purpose that is greater than you, a connection to something that needs you more will continue to motivate you to keep actively participating in this wonderful thing called life.

Read more: My Lesson in Aging Gracefully

copyright Kimberly Rinaldi 2015

Not Happy with Your Life? Ask Yourself These Questions

When clients seek me out, they have one thing in common: they’re not happy with some aspect of their life. Be it love, money, family, health, work, time management or their physical surroundings, they’ve let excuses cloud the vision of their vision.

I’m not saying excuses aren’t legitimate issues. I’m just saying excuses cloud your vision. So let’s wipe those clouds away and ask the really tough questions that might just make all the difference in your life.

Beautiful woman enjoying lifeWhat are you tolerating?  You have to understand that you are settling for something here, as opposed to aiming for a bigger goal. Tolerating does not get you the highest and best outcome available to you.

What are you avoiding?  Avoidance is not resolution. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – step up and deal with it. Whatever it is. You can’t get past it if you’re not willing to put it behind you. That may take work, healing, forgiveness … hey, you’ve been avoiding it for a reason.

Who are you blaming?  I often say when little Timmy comes home from school and complains that all his teachers hate him it’s time to take a look at Timmy. There’s a good chance Timmy is the problem. In all seriousness, you are exactly where you are because you haven’t chosen to change. I’m not saying you haven’t experienced bad things; what I’m saying is you decided to let them define you.

Excuses distract you. They keep you from seeing what it is that will make things better. Tolerating – Avoiding – Blaming are never going to empower you to the life you really want to live.

Now that you know, it’s time to do the work.

Want to reclaim your essence? We can do it all – we just have to do it smart.

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