Feeling Stuck? Try Some Emotional Therapy Using N.E.T.

Guest Post By Michelle S. Lim, D.C.

“Our emotional reality affects the physiology of our body.”

Whether we are conscious of it or not, we all have conditioned reflexes that we’ve acquired in life. Much of these reflexes are necessary for survival and ensure the safety and well being of others. We hit the brakes when we see an animal on the road, we lift our hands up to protect us when we sense something is falling from above, and we pull our hands away when we feel a hot dish. These are all normal reactions that contribute to our well-being, but what happens when we have deep seated emotional responses that no longer serve us?

A classic example would be a soldier who has returned home from war. Although he is safe and sound in his downtown San Diego neighborhood, the sound of a helicopter flying overhead might trigger his limbic system, dragging along old memories, making him think he was in combat again. He might drop down on the floor and instinctively look for a gun that is not there. His pulse will beat hard, his breaths even faster, while his blood pressure goes through the roof, anticipating the worst. Obviously, this is a dramatic example of what we know as PTSD, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

You see, in the emotional brain (the limbic system), time doesn’t exist. Due to the fact that emotions don’t have a linear sense of time, but rather, can effortlessly weave in and out of the past, we may be carrying around emotions that unknowingly dictate our lives. Much like the veteran who’s safe and sound in his home town but still gets a sympathetic flight or fight response every time he hears a loud noise, we may be soldiers of our past, carrying around fears, burdens, anger, resentment, sadness or paralyzed will, unwillingly creating a mental block or emotional prison.

When the emotional aspect of the brain takes over, superceding all rational and logical thought processes, this is called neurological hijacking. The limbic system takes control and as intelligent as we may be, we become immune to our responses because this is how we’ve always known it to be.

From the very first moment we encountered a not so favored situation, we’ve developed a way to cope with the problem and continue to use that emotional response time after time, much like an automated message. We’ve trained ourselves to “feel” a certain way regardless of how different the situation is. If it “feels” like a situation we’ve been in before, we already have a preset reaction to deal with it.

As I mentioned earlier, there are many times when our learned responses serve us well and ensure our survival. But when it no longer serves us, like the veteran who’s returned home, then we need to retrain our neo-cortex to think differently and be “ok” with whatever’s happening.

Research has already proven that stress causes negative physiologic reaction to the body and science has shown that people under stress are more susceptible to getting ill and are slower to recover compared to those who aren’t under any perceived stress. Whether real or perceived, stress directly affects the nervous system, which has a great impact on the immune system.

We are capable of measuring the physiologic effects of stress through monitoring heart rate, monitoring the respiratory system, assessing pulse rate, a Galvanic skin response, a polygraph test and muscle testing.

WHAT IS N.E.T.?

N.E.T. stands for Neuro Emotional Technique used by many health practitioners, Chiropractors, Naturopaths, M.D.s, Psychologists and MFTPs alike, who are in favor of holistic and conservative techniques.

Through muscle testing, N.E.T. is a mind-body technique that uses a methodology of finding and removing neurological imbalances related to the physiology of unresolved stress. N.E.T. is a tool that can help improve many behavioral and physical conditions.

WHAT CAN N.E.T. TREAT?

N.E.T. Practitioners are nearly unlimited in their ability to address the physical and behavioral stress-related conditions of their patients. These conditions include headaches, body pains, phobias, general anxiety, self-sabotaging behaviors, organ dysfunctions and so much more. It’s important to note that N.E.T. does not cure or heal the patient, but rather, N.E.T. removes blocks to the natural vitalism of the body, “allowing” the body to repair itself naturally.

N.E.T. has more than a 60% success rate in treating PTSD and is currently approved by the government as a conservative and cost-effective treatment for soldiers returning home.

To learn more, visit NETmindbody.com.

Dr. Lim utilizes the NET technique in her practice. Call (562) 920-6644 for consultation.

– Dr. Michelle S. Lim, D.C.

10 Signs You’re an Entrepreneur at Heart

retro girl wearing sunglasses with lemonade standFor most of my adult life I have surrounded myself with entrepreneurs. I love being around them – they fascinate me. While I went the corporate route for around 20 years, I always had a business or two running on the side – I guess it’s in my genes.

Personally, I advocate that everyone should have at least one entrepreneurial endeavor running, even if you have a JOB. I truly believe that we are all doing something that is marketable.

I often have conversations with people who don’t feel they have any entrepreneurial DNA. I beg to differ. I believe that if you’re willing to look inward, you just might find some of those entrepreneurial genetic qualities expressing themselves.

  1. You are motivated by challenge. The word no is not a be-all and end-all for you – it’s often a personal challenge, a go-ahead and try, a double-dog dare.
  2. You seek solutions. Where others get mired down in the problems, you find your creative juices flowing. Nothing is too far out there for you. People try to think outside the box – you crushed the box long ago.
  3. You eschew the status quo. Where many find the flow of status quo to be a comfortable place to reside, this feels like stagnation. It’s just plain icky.
  4. You’re a daydreamer. While this might have created problems for you in 10th grade algebra, you’ve accepted it’s part of what feeds your business acumen.
  5. You’re a risk taker. You’re not out there whining “But I need a guarantee…” Whether fearless or calculated, risk will always be part of the equation and you accept that reality.
  6. You recover quickly. Failure for you is lack of trying, not an unintended outcome. This goes hand-in-hand with #5. Not every swing is a home run, but each time you’re up to bat you step in, take a breath and swing away.
  7. You can’t sit still. The creative process is oxygen for your soul. You simply can’t live without it. Whether or not you act on all of this creativity is irrelevant. For you, the mind and often the body simply don’t shut down.
  8. You’re flexible. You say yes to opportunity and figure out the details as you go along.
  9. You’re focused on cash flow. No, you’re not necessarily just in it for the money. You do, however, understand that if the lights aren’t on and the doors aren’t open, you serve no one.
  10. You surround yourself with advisors. From coaches and strategic partners to mentors and board of directors, you understand the importance of knowing people who are smarter than you. You know more involved with your development and decision-making both personally and professionally.

I say if you can identify with at least 2 of the above items, then entrepreneurial blood flows through your veins. If you identify with 3 to 5, you’re likely to be a thought leader in your industry. If you identify with 6 to 8, you probably have a business of your own. If you identify with 9 or 10, you probably have your hand in several different businesses all the while simmering a few others in the back burners of your mind at all times.

2015 New Year’s Reflection

2015 ArrivesI came across this in my Facebook notes. It’s from five years ago – Dec. 11, 2009. While so much in my life has changed, so much remains the same. I have added my updated thoughts below in blue.

1. I’ve come to realize that my weight: is relevant to my health, not my happiness. And completely out of control. I need to get this resolved this year. I’m getting too old to keep making excuses for not being as healthy as I should be.

2. I’ve come to realize that my job: is awesome! And ever-expanding. I’m doing things now I couldn’t have imagined two years ago let alone five!

3. I’ve come to realize that when I’m driving: I truly relax, yes even in traffic.

4. I’ve come to realize that I need: help too sometimes. And I’m getting better at asking for and receiving it.

5. I’ve come to realize that I have lost: nothing. I have let go of attachment and know that something better always comes in.

6. I’ve come to realize that I hate it when: I want to help and for some reason can’t. I’m aware that I still have to work on control issues.

7. I’ve come to realize that if I’m drunk: I will pay for it later.

8. I’ve come to realize that money: not a measure of anything, but it is a means to greater freedom.

9. I’ve come to realize that certain people: should be avoided for your own sanity, welfare and highest purpose. I let them go with love.

10. I’ve come to realize that I’ll always: have a twisted sense of humor. And a bit of a potty mouth.

11. I’ve come to realize that my sibling(s): is not me and will not respond as I do. And she understands me better than I understand myself some days.

12. I’ve come to realize that my mom: really did do the best she could with what she had. And she still is.

13. I’ve come to realize that my cell phone: is an extension of my consciousness. If my cell phone rings alone in a forest and I am not there to hear it, does it really go to voice mail?

14. I’ve come to realize that when I woke up this morning: it is Friday and I didn’t do the Thursday night pre-cleaning lady pick up, so they don’t think we live like animals. Seriously, coffee cups and shoes multiply through out the week. I’m enjoying some creative work before I romp and play with my puppy.

15. I’ve come to realize that last night before I went to sleep: I am an adult and if I don’t get enough sleep it is my fault alone. I can now blame this period of insomnia in my life on menopause.

16. I’ve come to realize that right now I am thinking: don’t I have real work to do today?  I need to step away from the computer and enjoy the rest of my day off.

17. I’ve come to realize that my dad: is in a box, on my bar, across the dining room from me. And his birthday is next week, I have to put his card out. He is also in my life and work daily, even from the other side.

18. I’ve come to realize that when I get on Facebook: I get to spend inane moments with my own thoughts. Sometimes I share. And I probably share more now than I did five years ago.

19. I’ve come to realize that today: is moving on with out me. I need to run some errands, cats need food.

20. I’ve come to realize that tonight: I will make dinner and pack for a short trip, more stuff to do. While Mr. Rinaldi is at a board meeting, I’ll get to have dinner with a very dear friend and spend “girl time” catching up.

21. I’ve come to realize that tomorrow: we have a Christmas party and then we leave for a few days to celebrate Rick’s birthday. is not promised to any of us.

22. I’ve come to realize that I really want to: become a certified Yoga instructor next year. Impact the world in a greater way than I initially thought I could – to help others see the miracle and wonder within themselves.

23. I’ve come to realize that the person who is most likely to repost this is: certainly not Rick. I believe each of you should make this reflection an annual tradition, to see where you are and where you’ve been.

24. I’ve come to realize that life: is not a dress rehearsal and sending love to any situation helps.

25. I’ve come to realize that this weekend: Rick and his “evil” twin Bob are getting old! And no matter what, they will always be nine years older than me!

26. I’ve realized the best music to listen to when I am upset: anything Disney!

27. I’ve come to realize that this year: I found strive for balance, I sometimes misplace it but I know where to find it for the most part. And I launched a radio network – and we have 1 million listeners monthly! And I’m working on being in the moment and celebrating my successes, rather than viewing them in my rear view mirror and moving on to the next endeavor.

28. I’ve come to realize that my exes: were perfect, exactly the way they were, for someone else.

29. I’ve come to realize that maybe I should: spend more time in meditation.

30. I’ve come to realize that I love: everyone as an extension of myself. The concept of separateness is an illusion.

31. I’ve come to realize that I don’t understand: most electronic devices or their instruction manuals, I would rather just push buttons and see what happens. I am a 4 year old in that respect.

32. I’ve come to realize my past: was a wonderful chance to learn, change and grow — especially the painful stuff.

33. I’ve come to realize that parties: are to be attended, no more sitting home and being a hermit. And thrown, and planned, and spontaneously allowed to happen!

34. I’ve come to realize that I’m totally terrified: of nothing. I am occasionally uncomfortable, but the things that used to terrify me are all gone. I can KILL my own spiders now THANK YOU VERY MUCH!

35. I’ve come to realize that my life: is AWESOME! A glorious miracle filled with magic and wonder. And while I love who I am and what I do, I especially love the connections we share, those are the things which make it pretty damn awesome!

When you are ready to let go of the things that are holding you back, I’m here to help.

New Year, New You! (Ladies, This One’s for You)

beauty.1When we approach a new year, we’re often reflecting on the past as well as looking forward to the future. The commonality for most of us is that we typically see something we might like to change.

And while I’m not one for making New Year’s resolutions, I do look at the first of the year (as well as the month or so before my birthday) as a time for making personal change. Girly changes. Since these times of the year coincide with opposing seasons – winter and summer – the girly changes I’m talking about are usually beauty and accessories.

These changes are great pick-me-ups when you got the winter blahs (or for me when I’m facing the harsh realities of getting older). So what do I do to get a new perspective?

Makeover

This is the time where I can spend hours in Sephora. A pop of the current seasonal color on my lips, eyes, or nails can make me feel more feminine, more powerful, and just better in general. Just remember to play up your eyes or your lips – never both.  Ask for assistance; the staff in Sephora especially are there to help. Let them show you the latest trends and make recommendations for things you might not otherwise have tried.

New Hairdo

While I have been blonde, brunette, a redhead and a few other colors that simply don’t exist in nature, hair color has never frightened me. I’ve gone from long red hair to cropped platinum blonde overnight. A change that was so dramatic my own sister didn’t recognize me when I attempted to sit at a table in a restaurant and join her. And where I’m comfortable making dramatic changes in my hairstyle I know most women aren’t. So try some highlights, add some bangs, or simply go for a straight blowout. Whatever it is, just don’t be afraid to try something new.

Accessorize

A scarf, the right handbag, the perfect little slingback heel, a hair clip, a stack of bracelets or that perfect leopard print flat – any one of these can make a statement. It isn’t just enough to have the basic wardrobe down; these statement pieces are what can bring the WOW factor to your look and to how you feel.

“The only thing that separates us from the animals is our ability to accessorize.” ~ Clairee Belcher, Steel Magnolias, 1989

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Copyright Kimberly Rinaldi

7 Tips to Effectively Manage Your Time and Reduce Stress

StressI’m often asked how I’m able to get so much done in my world. I run multiple businesses, host a daily radio show, have an active social life, a happy marriage, well-adjusted pets, and I make time for self nurturing and travel.

While I currently have an amazing team that supports me in my day-to-day operations, there was a time when I was doing it all by myself and I had to apply these seven tools. Consistently. It wasn’t easy. But I promise you it’s well worth it.

So get started today, pick one and run with it – add a new one next week.

  1. Plan your day and set intentions. Take a few minutes every morning to plan your day. Set intentions for the completion of what you need and want to accomplish.
  2. Set goals. In addition to daily activities, make small steps to reach a larger goal.  You will be amazed at how quickly that goal is accomplished.
  3. Remember that mutli-tasking is not the best option. Take the time you need to do a quality job. When you have too many balls in the air, you can’t be good at everything.
  4. It is OK to say NO.  Consider your goals and schedule before you say yes to more tasks.
  5. Delegate.  Evaluate your to-do list for things you can pass on to others. Sometimes it pays to hire someone to help you.
  6. Keep positive. Thoughts are powerful.
  7. Take care of you. Learn relaxation techniques, take breaks and/or pamper yourself.

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Copyright Kimberly Rinaldi