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7 Tips to Effectively Manage Your Time and Reduce Stress

StressI’m often asked how I’m able to get so much done in my world. I run multiple businesses, host a daily radio show, have an active social life, a happy marriage, well-adjusted pets, and I make time for self nurturing and travel.

While I currently have an amazing team that supports me in my day-to-day operations, there was a time when I was doing it all by myself and I had to apply these seven tools. Consistently. It wasn’t easy. But I promise you it’s well worth it.

So get started today, pick one and run with it – add a new one next week.

  1. Plan your day and set intentions. Take a few minutes every morning to plan your day. Set intentions for the completion of what you need and want to accomplish.
  2. Set goals. In addition to daily activities, make small steps to reach a larger goal.  You will be amazed at how quickly that goal is accomplished.
  3. Remember that mutli-tasking is not the best option. Take the time you need to do a quality job. When you have too many balls in the air, you can’t be good at everything.
  4. It is OK to say NO.  Consider your goals and schedule before you say yes to more tasks.
  5. Delegate.  Evaluate your to-do list for things you can pass on to others. Sometimes it pays to hire someone to help you.
  6. Keep positive. Thoughts are powerful.
  7. Take care of you. Learn relaxation techniques, take breaks and/or pamper yourself.

How to enjoy your holidays and start the New Year on the right track! Listen in (mp3)

Copyright Kimberly Rinaldi

‘Twas the Night Before Christmas …

art Christmas scene with tree gifts and fire in background… and all through the house, not a creature was stirring …

Mostly because I’d opted to step away from “family tradition” last year. Christmas Eve has always been a big deal in my family. And for the last 20 years or so my family has gathered at my home for an intimate dinner, gift exchange and midnight mass if they were so inclined. Not so this past year.

It’s not that I didn’t want to spend time with my family. I had probably spent more time with them during the three weeks leading up to Christmas than I had the entire 11 months preceding. I just needed to do things differently. I needed to honor that part of me that wasn’t willing to go along with things “because we’ve always done them this way.”

I preach healthy boundaries, day in, day out, 365 days a year. It’s imperative that I live them. That year, there was a part of me that just knew hosting Christmas Eve, “because I always had,” was going to be a huge strain. I simply wouldn’t enjoy it. It had become an obligation.

During the family conversations leading up to the holidays I communicated my intentions, my needs and my desire for a peaceful Christmas Eve. The funny thing was it wasn’t met with push-back as I had expected. My sister stepped up and asked if she could host it. She said it would make her life easier not to have to travel with the kids on Christmas Eve. She had had a stressful season leading up to the holidays. My mother, who stays with my sister over the holidays, was in agreement.

I communicated my needs clearly and concisely, and the Universe and my family stepped up to meet those needs for me.

So instead of getting ready to have dinner on the table at 9 p.m. with the prospect of a very long night stretching out ahead of me, I was home in front of the fire in my pajamas by 9:30, enjoying the peace and joy of the holidays, my husband and my home.

This Christmas, I wish for you the things you need most, the courage to ask for them, and the grace to accept how they show up in your world for you.

My Lesson in Aging Gracefully

beauty concept skin aging. anti-aging proceduresI have amazing genetics and I have almost no stress in my life. Combine that with staying out of the sun for the last 30 years, and I don’t look my age. I recall getting carded when buying a round of beers the night before I turned 40. The bartender was instantly awarded BFF status in my world, which was great until I handed her my license. She then waltzed it around the bar showing everyone the photo and saying, “Can you believe how OLD she is?!” From that moment forward she was no longer my BFF.

The week before my birthday this year, I got carded again. Now I realize I do not look 21 so I asked the bartender what their threshold was – under 40, 35, 30? Her response was under 35. I damn near kissed her on the lips! I turned 48 this year. My husband asked if I’d be sharing these stories at any opportunity I could. My response: I’ll be telling these stories in the nursing home.

Aging is a tough thing for women. Our culture values youth. And men simply don’t have the same pressures that we do. I’m becoming aware that I am aging. While I continue to celebrate birthdays, the aging process is something that I intend to battle to my last breath. Not just how I look but how I feel and how I behave as well.

My hair is beginning to turn “platinum” which is only a problem every fifth or sixth week thanks to my wonderful colorist. And as I look in the mirror, gravity has begun to take its toll. I don’t have major deep wrinkles, but I am getting fine lines around my eyes.

After doing some research I’ve decided to try three different “face-saving” options. I’m not one who is going to rule out plastic surgery if I think it’ll make a difference. But if I can put that option off as a last resort, then great!

FlexEffect. This program is based on facial muscle building, resistance, cross stretching and some other proprietary facial training options. It’s exercise to build and sculpt facial muscles. This one is the least invasive of the three options. I tried a few exercises already and could feel a difference.

NuFace Trinity. This is microcurrent technology – facial muscle exercise done passively. And yes I bought the optional accessories for eyes and wrinkle reduction. After using this for about two weeks (I’ve stuck with this a little longer than the FlexEffect because it was easier to do) my nasolabial fold – also known as marionette lines – was pulled tighter, and not as obvious.

Derma Roller. Well, I’ll be honest, I bought it. I opened the package. I read the instructions. I put it back in the package and put it under the bathroom sink. It’s there … waiting. I haven’t been able to bring myself to do this. I’ve read the reviews, and people are getting great results with this. I had a needle phobia for most of my life. I can’t quite wrap my head around 600 to 1200 micro-needles piercing my skin on purpose.

I’m going to keep up on the NuFace Trinity and add more of the FlexEffect facial exercises and at some point I promise to try the Derma Roller. I’ll keep you posted.

What exactly are you willing to do to suffer for beauty and the ability to age gracefully?

One Holiday At a Time, Please!

Happy Thanksgiving Card

I was in a large department store over Labor Day weekend this year and found myself caught in some sort of time-space continuum. No, I mean it. From where I stood there was an aisle of summer closeouts: barbecue equipment, patio furniture, and beach towels. On another aisle, back-to-school items were present and accounted for. A third aisle featured Halloween decor and candy. And on the fourth aisle: Christmas lights!

Two things came to my mind immediately. First, for the love of God – it’s still August! And second, where the hell did Thanksgiving go?!

And that’s when I came to the realization that as a nation of consumers we have taught advertisers and big-box retailers that we are willing to go from one sales-centric holiday to the next, with the Mount Everest of Black Friday looming at its pinnacle.

And now Black Friday is creeping into Thanksgiving Day. I am not happy about this!

Fall – in particular, the time between mid-October and Thanksgiving – is my favorite time of year. (Okay, I get it, I’m in Southern California. We don’t have real weather. Still, go with me on this.) The days get shorter, the nights get longer, and things begin to slow down a bit. Right before they slip into hyperdrive – that period between Thanksgiving and New Year’s. Let me enjoy it! Can we not celebrate Labor-Ween-Thanks-Mas??

Since Thanksgiving is typically about family and friends – no big bucks to be made from turkey dinners – it seems to have vanished altogether anymore.

I say we take it back. I say we protest. How about a post turkey dinner glass of wine, feet up and good conversation instead of a trip to a store. Don’t drink? Then coffee and an extra large slice of pumpkin pie. I even understand there might be a football game or two that day. Whatever your choice is, JUST STAY HOME. Say no to retail. Focus on what you have to be grateful for and surround yourself with it, even if only for just today.

Don’t want to miss out on the Black Friday deals? Try online shopping! Here are a few great sales from Lessons in Joyful Living.

copyright Kimberly Rinaldi

10 Tips to Break Bad Habits

ice cream isolated on white backgroundOld bad habits: I chewed my fingernails until they bled. I sucked my thumb until I was 11. I chewed my hair. I smoked two packs a day.

New bad habits: I need adult supervision at the pet store because I want to bring every fur baby home. I leave my shoes where I take them off. I am consistently 15 minutes late for personal appointments.

Chances are you have some bad habits of your own that you’d like to get rid of as well. While working on changing habits, you have to realize there is a hierarchy to making change. At one level it’s conscious and external and it takes a lot of work; at another level it’s unconscious and internal and it happens pretty effortlessly.

Levels of Change

  • Identity – I AM
  • Values – I Feel, It’s Important
  • Belief – I Think, I Know
  • Potential – I Can, You Can
  • Behavior – I Do, I Don’t
  • Environment – It Is, There Is

When you’re working at higher levels of Value and Identity, change takes place on an internal level and it is unconscious – and relatively effortless. That’s how I quit smoking in 1989. Where most people attempt to make change is at the level of Behavior and Environment, which requires consciousness and effort. Unfortunately, most people give up pretty quickly because of this.

If you’re ready to try working on some of your bad habits here are some tips for you.

  1. Identify and eliminate whatever reward or pay off the habit is giving you. You have a habit of eating ice cream every night before bed? Stop buying it! If it’s not the house you can’t eat it.
  2. Trade bad behavior for positive behavior. Nature abhors a vacuum. Take that time you might’ve been eating ice cream and do something productive. Read, meditate, take a long bath.
  3. Avoid temptation. If ice cream has been your problem, it makes no sense to wander into Baskin-Robbins. Habits are unconscious strategies that are run by triggers. Avoid the trigger, and you’ll avoid the strategy.
  4. Practice, practice, practice. Practice saying no to things. It’s the unconscious yes that drives that ice cream strategy. So if somebody offers you something sweet, say no. You can change your mind later. But this will get you in the habit of saying no when someone offers ice cream.
  5. Anchor your new reward. Create something as a reward for making better choices and eliminating this habit. So let’s say eliminating ice cream will allow you to drop 10 pounds, which will put you in the perfect size for that fabulous little black dress. Take a picture of that LBD and place it somewhere you’re going to see it every day – maybe even on the door of the freezer.
  6. Have a backup plan. Using an “if – then” situation, create a backup plan. Example: if I think about having ice cream before bed then I will sip 16 ounces of water while I focus on all the progress I’ve made so far.
  7. Exercise your willpower. We live in such an instant gratification society that we feel any deprivation is uncomfortable. Just keep saying to yourself “I can put this off for two more minutes.” In two more minutes, say the same thing. You need to be conscious about it and you will feel uncomfortable in the beginning. Eventually your willpower will be one of your strongest muscles.
  8. Give yourself a break. It can take anywhere from three weeks to three months to break a habit. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Don’t believe the statistics you read. Just keep applying these tools.
  9. Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater. Having a bite, or a cup, or a pint of ice cream once out of 22 days is a 22 day win, not an all-out failure. If you fall off the wagon, get back on. Chances are the next run will be longer than the last one.
  10. Celebrate you. Be conscious of every day you succeed, and share those successes with others. Let them celebrate you, let you celebrate you. Revel in the awesomeness that is you without your old bad habit.

You can do it! You got this!

If you’re interested in getting help with breaking those bad habits give us a call at 888-916-4569 or 562-618-0175 – we’d love to help.

Copyright Kimberly Rinaldi 2014